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I'm on team 'no hello' but I've been intrigued to learn over the years how some people interpret it as rude. I've had to reassure employees who complained about
by petercooper 5y ago
I'm on team 'no hello' but I've been intrigued to learn over the years how some people interpret it as rude. I've had to reassure employees who complained about (potential) customers being rude where it turned out to merely be folks being direct and to the point. I've also seen people selling things on Facebook groups and the like complain about direct questions too, like they want to make some chitchat first. Different strokes, etc. so it pays to take context into account! :-)
- tarkin2 5y agoChit chat shows you’re at least trying to show interest in the other person, and is thus seen as polite by many.
- petercooper 5y agoThe older I get the more I notice a lot of dichotomies where both sides have opposite qualitative judgments. Another recent one I learnt about was https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aizuchi https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aizuchi in Japanese where people sort of talk/interject over each other and it's seen as more polite than listening to someone in total silence. Again, all down to context, because if I tried that sort of conversational technique with my partner it would not go down well(!)
- Fnoord 5y agoThat reads like a bunch of equivalents to TCP ACK. Marvelous! In political debate on TV here in NL, I noticed nodding is often used to indicate a listener is listening. It doesn't mean they agree. Its essentially a way to shut/calm down the active talker, akin to 'yeah yeah, get on with it, let me reply...'