I never searched for a wife, never aspired to "find a wife", never particularly wanted a wife. I just went about with my life and a wife suddenly appeared. (To

I never searched for a wife, never aspired to "find a wife", never particularly wanted a wife. I just went about with my life and a wife suddenly appeared. (To be fair, first she was just a girl, then a friend, then a girlfriend and then a wife). You can increase the probability that a wife appears in much the same way catch new pokemon, by moving around, even if you're just moving between the same two tiles. So, to repeat what everyone else said, don't be hunting, and don't worry about it, enjoy your life and be social in situations where you feel comfortable.