On the other hand, I have a friend who adopted this approach and it turned out to be the source of their problems. I'm not saying it's a bad approach, just that

On the other hand, I have a friend who adopted this approach and it turned out to be the source of their problems. I'm not saying it's a bad approach, just that at some point you have to go from dating -> feel something serious -> commitment at some level, and there's some tension there between "maximizing your dating pool" and "committing to one relationship." I don't mean anything like "being monogamous is difficult" what I mean is mentally there's a shift involved as you progress, and the relationship is as much a function of what you put into it as what the other person is providing you. If you're in "evaluating your partner mode" perpetually, you'll never get to the next stage. Or something like that.