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What I do: 1. move 99% of my follows to lists, so I get less useless, dopamine level hacking spam 2. anyone can just call me to say hi, chat or rant: https://s

What I do: 1. move 99% of my follows to lists, so I get less useless, dopamine level hacking spam 2. anyone can just call me to say hi, chat or rant: https://sonnet.io/posts/hi https://sonnet.io/posts/hi When it comes to making any meaningful, or at least interesting connections with people, I’ve had more success with 2. in a month, than with Twitter in the past 10 years or so. I miss forums though.

petecooper 5y ago
>https://sonnet.io/posts/hi https://sonnet.io/posts/hi This is great, may I use this idea – with credit – please?
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- rpastuszak 5y ago
  Sure! Share a link/tweet when you share it people, I'm curious to see how you'll approach the idea:)
- nkrisc 5y ago
  You don’t need permission to do something like this for yourself.
  - rpastuszak 5y ago
    That is true, although selfishly I'd love to see how they approach it though, so I can learn from them.
  - petecooper 5y ago
    That’s fair. I was asking for courtesy.
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icy 5y ago
> 2. anyone can just call me to say hi, chat or rant: https://sonnet.io/posts/hi https://sonnet.io/posts/hi Interesting idea. How many have taken you up on this so far, excluding people you already knew? I’d be super anxious about doing this, but it does fun.
_3jh0 5y ago
Great idea. I booked a rant slot. I would like to see how it goes and make a post for my website too. Here's an offer link for HN crowd: https://calendly.com/searchableguy/15min https://calendly.com/searchableguy/15min
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tannr 5y ago
Amazing idea, I wanted to give away 2h of my life on weekly basis before too. Did not go with it as I want more freedom and flexibility. Was it worth it for you?
- rpastuszak 5y ago
  It's easier that you think, I get 1-2 calls per month on average. Using Calendly I can ensure that people give me enough notice to prepare. I'll be writing a post about it in the next 1-2 weeks. In short: yes, I moved from a big city where I felt like home (Shoreditch, London) to a smaller city (Porto), where due to the pandemic I'm still sometimes struggling with the language and meeting new people. Often, when I feel down, I get one of those random calls and end up feeling like I did something useful. What can happen during those calls? Here's the worst case: the conversation is somewhat dry or boring, we say bye to each other, maybe take some notes, likely never speak again. Has the worst case ever happened? Yes, once, I think, and I didn't feel like I wasted my time. Did I hear a 3 minute rant about tech that ended up being a 2 hour discussion about the weird, beautiful and fascinating life of the person who called me? Also yes! But, the main reason is not related to covid or any big life decisions, such as moving to a different country. I think that, especially in our lines of work, it's quite hard to feel like what we do impacts other people. Everything's so immaterial/unreal: the person becomes a user, the user becomes a persona. People who call me are generally very open, curious and, for some reason, surprisingly grateful that someone has time to speak to them. And that's really strange because the amount of effort on my side is minimal. I'm grateful that they decided to spend some of their time calling me.

petecooper 5y ago

>https://sonnet.io/posts/hi https://sonnet.io/posts/hi This is great, may I use this idea – with credit – please?

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rpastuszak 5y ago
Sure! Share a link/tweet when you share it people, I'm curious to see how you'll approach the idea:)
nkrisc 5y ago
You don’t need permission to do something like this for yourself.
- rpastuszak 5y ago
  That is true, although selfishly I'd love to see how they approach it though, so I can learn from them.
- petecooper 5y ago
  That’s fair. I was asking for courtesy.
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icy 5y ago

> 2. anyone can just call me to say hi, chat or rant: https://sonnet.io/posts/hi https://sonnet.io/posts/hi Interesting idea. How many have taken you up on this so far, excluding people you already knew? I’d be super anxious about doing this, but it does fun.

_3jh0 5y ago

Great idea. I booked a rant slot. I would like to see how it goes and make a post for my website too. Here's an offer link for HN crowd: https://calendly.com/searchableguy/15min https://calendly.com/searchableguy/15min

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tannr 5y ago

Amazing idea, I wanted to give away 2h of my life on weekly basis before too. Did not go with it as I want more freedom and flexibility. Was it worth it for you?

rpastuszak 5y ago
It's easier that you think, I get 1-2 calls per month on average. Using Calendly I can ensure that people give me enough notice to prepare. I'll be writing a post about it in the next 1-2 weeks. In short: yes, I moved from a big city where I felt like home (Shoreditch, London) to a smaller city (Porto), where due to the pandemic I'm still sometimes struggling with the language and meeting new people. Often, when I feel down, I get one of those random calls and end up feeling like I did something useful. What can happen during those calls? Here's the worst case: the conversation is somewhat dry or boring, we say bye to each other, maybe take some notes, likely never speak again. Has the worst case ever happened? Yes, once, I think, and I didn't feel like I wasted my time. Did I hear a 3 minute rant about tech that ended up being a 2 hour discussion about the weird, beautiful and fascinating life of the person who called me? Also yes! But, the main reason is not related to covid or any big life decisions, such as moving to a different country. I think that, especially in our lines of work, it's quite hard to feel like what we do impacts other people. Everything's so immaterial/unreal: the person becomes a user, the user becomes a persona. People who call me are generally very open, curious and, for some reason, surprisingly grateful that someone has time to speak to them. And that's really strange because the amount of effort on my side is minimal. I'm grateful that they decided to spend some of their time calling me.