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It says “rather than change”. Doesn’t that preclude change? I interpreted it as accepting flaws and looking to “thrive” in other means that don’t involve fixing
by throwawaysea 5y ago
It says “rather than change”. Doesn’t that preclude change? I interpreted it as accepting flaws and looking to “thrive” in other means that don’t involve fixing those flaws.
- dasil003 5y agoNo it's not a logic problem, it's human behavior. The point is that while you are beating yourself up about not changing you are also not changing. Or as Yoda would put it: "do or do not, there is no try".
- GavinMcG 5y agoGrammatically, "rather than" opposes "change" to "thrive", but entirely within the context of "look at what we need." It doesn't preclude change itself--just the focus on change.
- powersnail 5y agoI think it means that we should "look at what we need to thrive", rather than to "look at what need to change". Not that you shouldn't ever change; just don't focus on the change itself when you are setting goals and concocting plans.
- watwut 5y agoAlso from article: "When you no longer imagine you must transform yourself, in order to justify your existence on the planet, you’re finally able to do so, in small ways and large. The stakes are lower, now that your self-worth no longer hangs in the balance." You think about what would improve your life instead of focusing on own flaws. Then do the baby step of improving something in your life and if it feels better, then you succeeded. You end up doing steps to change and liking the road.