I asked whether or not you have kids because you seem to be completely misunderstanding both what is happening and why we're doing it. Saying "no" to a request

I asked whether or not you have kids because you seem to be completely misunderstanding both what is happening and why we're doing it. Saying "no" to a request for attention and/or milk at 2AM (for a 1 year-old) is not neglect, it's just setting a healthy boundary. I'd even be willing to go one step further and say that insisting your partner do this is abusive.