I'm late to the party, but your story feels very familiar, and I likewise assumed that everybody was experiencing the same things as I. My sincere advice is to

I'm late to the party, but your story feels very familiar, and I likewise assumed that everybody was experiencing the same things as I. My sincere advice is to approach a qualified medical practitioner for a diagnosis. The irony, of course, is that this is exactly the kind of thing that is overwhelming (or deeply off-putting) to a person with ADHD. To that end, I offer the following advice: 1. Don't make a big deal about it and don't be a perfectionist. Specifically, don't spend too much time researching professionals at this point in the process. Just schedule an appointment with your usual GP and bring up the subject, explaining that you'd like to investigate the possibility that you have adult ADHD, in order to improve your quality of life. 2. Don't get too hung up on meds at this point. Your GP (or subsequent psychiatrist) may conclude that cognitive therapy is sufficient for you. I can personally attest to the surprising efficacy of CBT. 3. Generally speaking, approach this with calm curiosity. Trust that you can back out of anything at any time if you're not comfortable. Ask questions. Express concerns. Make it easy on yourself. If you want, I'm happy to talk over Zoom/Matrix if you think that would help. I can't give any definitive answers, but I can definitely share my experience and perhaps give you a general sense of what to expect. Feel free to drop me a line if that sounds appealing: louist87 [at] gmail.