1. You have imposter syndrome (the “fear” you describe). The good news is, this is totally normal, most people have it and it never goes away. You just have to

1. You have imposter syndrome (the “fear” you describe). The good news is, this is totally normal, most people have it and it never goes away. You just have to ignore it and eventually you will get good at ignoring it. The proof of this is that you describe being worried that you can’t work in tech, yet clearly have managed to get several tech jobs and so far (as far as you described) have not been fired or even laid off. So you objectively can work in tech and should just stop listing to the internal voice that says you can’t. 2. Consider that “tech” is not a monolithic culture, and it’s entirely possible (especially at earlier stage startups, but even at FANG) to have several unlucky experiences in a row. 3. You current job situation is unfortunate, but once you relax and ignore the fear of failure, it’s still a pretty good situation. You have a job at a company you’re excited about working with people you respect. So far you haven’t been fired or put on a performance plan. If the company is unhappy with your output it is up to them to tell you, and you shouldn’t decide you are a failure before they do so. You didn’t say anything about your new manager, but you should ask them what is a priority for you to work on, and focus on shipping something (anything) aligned with that priority. One project at a time. Don’t spread yourself too thin, or give up on the project because you can’t find someone to approve the PR. Have a singular focus and keep knocking down doors until you finish it. 4. You need to learn to live with setbacks in life and your career. The best way to do this is to get a hobby (outside of work/tech) that is easy to succeed at, such as exercise. E.g. to succeed at running or cycling you just have to put one foot in front of the other, and leave the house a few times per week. This can do wonders to take your mind off professional setbacks. 5. (Edit after reading some of your other comments in the thread) Stop comparing yourself to others (and possibly take a break from social media, especially LinkedIn, if that is the source of your comparisons). There are always going to be people massively more successful in life. Even if you get promoted and write a book and found a startup there are still going to be people way more successful than you and you will still feel like a failure if you constantly compare yourself to them. Also, lots of those people who present themselves as super successful and happy on social media are actually deeply unhappy. That is not your goal. PS. Happy to DM or chat about specifics if you want to reach out (email in profile).