Also, talk to your friends. I'm sure a number of them would actually want to do something sober, it's just that things just easily fall into that mode. If you

Also, talk to your friends. I'm sure a number of them would actually want to do something sober, it's just that things just easily fall into that mode. If you like watersports, suggest doing soemthing like that. Or go to the gun range. Or go to an origami course together. If no one suggests anything then to the bar it is. But there's a lot of options, but it requires active thinking/planning/doing from both parties.