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My guide to having a sober life. 1) Focus on good conversations and not drinks (you can get high from a good talk) 2) Excercise! A lot! 3) Focus on the music

by hoerzu 5y ago

My guide to having a sober life. 1) Focus on good conversations and not drinks (you can get high from a good talk) 2) Excercise! A lot! 3) Focus on the music and dancing and not the bar 4) If people pressure you to drink, day you will do later ( they will forget anyways) or say you the driver 5) Have a sober partner 6) celebrate each Sunday not hungover with sports, sex or what you enjoy 7) If you are drinking to go away from problems consult a therapist 8) Try microdosing if you need extra serotonin but no hangover (warning not a medical advice, experience needed and emotional health) 9) Listen to heart what brings you long-term joy 10) Focus on nutrition often people drink when they are hungry or you get upset because you are hungry after 7 h while everyone has beer

the_only_law 5y ago
> Focus on good conversations and not drinks Where do you find this. Bars provide me with a building full of people who are likely more sociable and open to talking with randos at the time, though the conversations tend to be dumbed down a bit. The disinhibition is powerful. The only other places I have “good conversations” these days are in niche online spaces, with people I won’t find irl.
- muffinman26 5y ago
  OP is college-age, and most colleges have a variety of seminars, which are a great place to start. The people who attend these seminars usually are interested in talking about the same topics informally afterwards. If you're not in college, any course with content to study where you see the same people multiple times in-person is a good place to meet people interested in talking. If you're not sure what interests you, check out the continuing education catalog of your local community college. If you don't have much practice striking up conversations with sober strangers, it may take a few sessions before spontaneous conversations start up, but by the midway point of every wilderness or language course I've taken people were very chatty.
- hoerzu 5y ago
  You can look for quality instead of quantity in my opinion with new people.

by hoerzu 5y ago

the_only_law 5y ago

> Focus on good conversations and not drinks Where do you find this. Bars provide me with a building full of people who are likely more sociable and open to talking with randos at the time, though the conversations tend to be dumbed down a bit. The disinhibition is powerful. The only other places I have “good conversations” these days are in niche online spaces, with people I won’t find irl.

muffinman26 5y ago
OP is college-age, and most colleges have a variety of seminars, which are a great place to start. The people who attend these seminars usually are interested in talking about the same topics informally afterwards. If you're not in college, any course with content to study where you see the same people multiple times in-person is a good place to meet people interested in talking. If you're not sure what interests you, check out the continuing education catalog of your local community college. If you don't have much practice striking up conversations with sober strangers, it may take a few sessions before spontaneous conversations start up, but by the midway point of every wilderness or language course I've taken people were very chatty.
hoerzu 5y ago
You can look for quality instead of quantity in my opinion with new people.