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"weaponize laughter" is a clever sounding spin on what was said... however... a weapon is something designed to inflict damage. The comment above is about keepi

"weaponize laughter" is a clever sounding spin on what was said... however... a weapon is something designed to inflict damage. The comment above is about keeping people out who will inflict damage to an organization. Maybe you could call it.. using laughter as a shield

BoorishBears 5y ago
Between this and your other comment: > The point of interviewing is to make judgements. There is no irony. This judgement is: people who assume the worst of others are toxic to work with. Whew. The saving grace here is you're so cavalier about this sort of borderline paranoia and megalomania. It tells me you won't hide it well, and the shrewd candidates will run for the hills.
- danielmarkbruce 5y ago
  You seem to be assuming bad intent.... It really is helpful, socially, to assume good intent. It avoids unnecessary arguments (/wars). Additionally, if you spend a little time digging in when you have assumed bad intent, you'll almost always find that the person has good intent, there has just been a misunderstanding, or miscommunication, or they face very different incentives or have a different set of underlying assumptions. As for megalomania - it's likely we live in different locations/and or work in different industries. Where I am, interviewers don't hold the power. Candidates do. Especially candidates who are judged to be good. Good candidates make a judgement call as to where they want to work because they have many options. They exercise said power, negotiate higher salaries, and leave if they don't like the arrangement. And good for them, they have in demand skills and a good attitude. I understand it isn't like this in all locations/industries.
  - BoorishBears 5y ago
    Why do you think I said they'd run from you? If I caught a whiff of half what you've said here I'd end the on-site early. My industry is too competitive to put up with this sort of childish antics.
    - danielmarkbruce 5y ago
      And the gate would be working as intended. I'm quite certain you have good intent. Maybe you've had truly rude people interview you, they exist. Maybe you have worked with a lot of jerks who were rude. Maybe we just have different definitions of "judge". The most generous take of my intent is ~ "this person really wants to avoid a dysfunctional work culture". If you assume good intent, you'll face fewer problems in life. It's one of the few pieces of advice that actually work with few exceptions. If you catch a whiff of something, and it smells like bad intent, maybe forcing yourself to rethink it from another perspective will work.
      - BoorishBears 5y ago
        I assume good intent: that's encountering why someone who'd make people uncomfortable with openly expressed ill-intent is so messed up... By the way, you should let HR know about your helpful intent to shield the company. They should have a wonderful commendation for you, and some COBRA paperwork to go with it.
        danielmarkbruce 5y ago
        > try and make people uncomfortable This is an example of assuming ill-intent. I didn't say I'd try to make people uncomfortable. Here is what I actually wrote: >I think I'd be happy to laugh and offend said people as a mechanism to keep them away An interpretation of this assuming good intent is: "If I find something funny, I'll laugh. If it has the side effect of keeping people out who assume everyone has ill-intent, that's fine. " An interpretation assuming ill intent is: "i deliberately laugh to see who it upsets". Most people have read what I said in the generous way. There are a lot of upvotes. Hacker News isn't filled with a-holes who get excited when someone says something awful.
        BoorishBears 5y ago
        >> "I'd be happy to laugh and offend " This is the definition of ill-intent. This is what intentionally making someone uncomfortable looks like. Glad you learned something today :)

BoorishBears 5y ago

Between this and your other comment: > The point of interviewing is to make judgements. There is no irony. This judgement is: people who assume the worst of others are toxic to work with. Whew. The saving grace here is you're so cavalier about this sort of borderline paranoia and megalomania. It tells me you won't hide it well, and the shrewd candidates will run for the hills.

danielmarkbruce 5y ago
You seem to be assuming bad intent.... It really is helpful, socially, to assume good intent. It avoids unnecessary arguments (/wars). Additionally, if you spend a little time digging in when you have assumed bad intent, you'll almost always find that the person has good intent, there has just been a misunderstanding, or miscommunication, or they face very different incentives or have a different set of underlying assumptions. As for megalomania - it's likely we live in different locations/and or work in different industries. Where I am, interviewers don't hold the power. Candidates do. Especially candidates who are judged to be good. Good candidates make a judgement call as to where they want to work because they have many options. They exercise said power, negotiate higher salaries, and leave if they don't like the arrangement. And good for them, they have in demand skills and a good attitude. I understand it isn't like this in all locations/industries.
- BoorishBears 5y ago
  Why do you think I said they'd run from you? If I caught a whiff of half what you've said here I'd end the on-site early. My industry is too competitive to put up with this sort of childish antics.
  - danielmarkbruce 5y ago
    And the gate would be working as intended. I'm quite certain you have good intent. Maybe you've had truly rude people interview you, they exist. Maybe you have worked with a lot of jerks who were rude. Maybe we just have different definitions of "judge". The most generous take of my intent is ~ "this person really wants to avoid a dysfunctional work culture". If you assume good intent, you'll face fewer problems in life. It's one of the few pieces of advice that actually work with few exceptions. If you catch a whiff of something, and it smells like bad intent, maybe forcing yourself to rethink it from another perspective will work.
    - BoorishBears 5y ago
      I assume good intent: that's encountering why someone who'd make people uncomfortable with openly expressed ill-intent is so messed up... By the way, you should let HR know about your helpful intent to shield the company. They should have a wonderful commendation for you, and some COBRA paperwork to go with it.
      - danielmarkbruce 5y ago
        > try and make people uncomfortable This is an example of assuming ill-intent. I didn't say I'd try to make people uncomfortable. Here is what I actually wrote: >I think I'd be happy to laugh and offend said people as a mechanism to keep them away An interpretation of this assuming good intent is: "If I find something funny, I'll laugh. If it has the side effect of keeping people out who assume everyone has ill-intent, that's fine. " An interpretation assuming ill intent is: "i deliberately laugh to see who it upsets". Most people have read what I said in the generous way. There are a lot of upvotes. Hacker News isn't filled with a-holes who get excited when someone says something awful.
        BoorishBears 5y ago
        >> "I'd be happy to laugh and offend " This is the definition of ill-intent. This is what intentionally making someone uncomfortable looks like. Glad you learned something today :)