Some assume that someone who doesn't want the life they want, is defective rather than just different. I get the impression there are some under-managed issues

Some assume that someone who doesn't want the life they want, is defective rather than just different. I get the impression there are some under-managed issues/anxieties here, but no more so than a lot of society, particularly myself and most of my circles at various times in our lives. He just displays his in a way that is currently getting some attention.