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I might be an asshole here but I’ll just call it: you’re jealous and you can either stop being jealous or stop being friends with them. They can’t do anything.
by Otek 5y ago
I might be an asshole here but I’ll just call it: you’re jealous and you can either stop being jealous or stop being friends with them. They can’t do anything. There will be always people with more money and less money than you, more attractive and ugly people around you. If you let it get under your skin, then no matter if you have a boat, you’ll have a friend with a huge yacht. There is no ceiling. Good luck.
- scandox 5y agoYou're not an asshole, but perhaps I am: it's envy - not jealousy. > Envy means discontented longing for someone else’s advantages. Jealousy means unpleasant suspicion, or apprehension of rivalship. https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/jealous-vs-envious https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/jealous-vs-env...
- e1g 5y agoYep. “Envy” is wanting what they have, “jealousy” is being afraid they take what you have. You are envious when they get a shiny car, and jealous when they flirt with your partner.
- geocrasher 5y agoEnvy goes a step further. See, Jealousy is wanting the same things somebody else has. Envy means that you'd take it from them if that meant you could have it. It means you'd deprive them of it to your own benefit.
- Otek 5y agoLet’s not split hairs. I think we all know what I meant from context.
- Otek 5y agoI think you should read before you are sending something, first paragraph from your link: > […] historical usage shows that both mean "covetous" and are interchangeable when describing desiring someone else's possessions. Maybe that’s why your friends have more money than you /s
- scandox 5y agoI'm not the OP. I like having richer friends - I borrow their money...and only sometimes give it back. I did read that but I've never accepted that usage. It's a despicable attempt to elide a very useful discrimination.
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- als0 5y agoAs an aside, there's an interesting discussion here about whether the meaning has changed https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/270697/envy-vs-jealousy-has-the-meaning-changed https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/270697/envy-vs-j...
- DennisP 5y agoMaybe OP is jealous but on the other hand, plenty of rich people downplay it as much as they can, instead of bragging about their latest $1M gain to their less fortunate friends. Imho OP's friends could be more considerate.