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I don’t think this is a good advice. Let’s think about possible outcome. I think OP’s friends will be sorry for his situation but they can’t do anything about i

by Otek 5y ago

I don’t think this is a good advice. Let’s think about possible outcome. I think OP’s friends will be sorry for his situation but they can’t do anything about it. They might even not invite him to more fancy events to avoid uncomfortable situations but that’s not what he’s looking for. What do you think they can do when he’ll tell them about his feeling?

xboxnolifes 5y ago
> What do you think they can do when he’ll tell them about his feeling? Talk about it so they can understand each other? You don't just drop the one-liner and hope they change their ways accordingly. Hell, they don't need to change at all. Just talking about it could cause OP to realize his friends don't care about that sort of thing and reduce or rid of their feeling of shame. Some people can be okay not talking about how they feel; however, OP is clearly not currently okay, so doing something is the only way something will change. If OP cannot change their own feelings theirself, OP can either get different friends or try to talk to their current friends. And if you are willing to get different friends, you may as well try to talk to your current ones first. > If you’re commenting on this thread and offering advice, I encourage you add the context of whether you are one of those who have money or not. And since OP asked, I'm too young to have accumulated wealth to be jealous of, but I feel comfortable with my current job and am optimistic of my future.
- Otek 5y ago
  You forgot to answer question: What do you think they can do when he’ll tell them about his feeling? Hypothetically, what could one say to make OP feel better as his friend? I don’t see anything.
  - xboxnolifes 5y ago
    I did not forget to answer, my answer was simply not accepted. The act of talking to each other about an issue can itself reduce the burden. There aren't magic words that make any person feel better. OP may always have some lingering discontent, but that's life. Sometimes it's just about managing the discontent. It's not a sure-fire solution. Hard problems rarely have such a thing. But I'd bet on discussion performing better than no discussion is most scenarios. Even if it lead you to finding new friends.
  - hluska 5y ago
    I'm not the person you're replying to, but a mature response would be: "Woah bud, I'm sorry. Have I changed or is it just that I can spend more?" Worst case scenario, you communicate. Best case scenario, you discover that you've become an asshole.
endisneigh 5y ago
I don't know - if the OP was my friend I'd want to know so I could reassure them. More practically speaking we could meet somewhere else where they could feel more comfortable. Isn't that the whole point of friendship?
- Otek 5y ago
  This is friendship? Meeting with my friend on neutral place because he can’t stand that I have huge house?
  - andrecarini 5y ago
    Yes

by Otek 5y ago

xboxnolifes 5y ago

> What do you think they can do when he’ll tell them about his feeling? Talk about it so they can understand each other? You don't just drop the one-liner and hope they change their ways accordingly. Hell, they don't need to change at all. Just talking about it could cause OP to realize his friends don't care about that sort of thing and reduce or rid of their feeling of shame. Some people can be okay not talking about how they feel; however, OP is clearly not currently okay, so doing something is the only way something will change. If OP cannot change their own feelings theirself, OP can either get different friends or try to talk to their current friends. And if you are willing to get different friends, you may as well try to talk to your current ones first. > If you’re commenting on this thread and offering advice, I encourage you add the context of whether you are one of those who have money or not. And since OP asked, I'm too young to have accumulated wealth to be jealous of, but I feel comfortable with my current job and am optimistic of my future.

Otek 5y ago
You forgot to answer question: What do you think they can do when he’ll tell them about his feeling? Hypothetically, what could one say to make OP feel better as his friend? I don’t see anything.
- xboxnolifes 5y ago
  I did not forget to answer, my answer was simply not accepted. The act of talking to each other about an issue can itself reduce the burden. There aren't magic words that make any person feel better. OP may always have some lingering discontent, but that's life. Sometimes it's just about managing the discontent. It's not a sure-fire solution. Hard problems rarely have such a thing. But I'd bet on discussion performing better than no discussion is most scenarios. Even if it lead you to finding new friends.
- hluska 5y ago
  I'm not the person you're replying to, but a mature response would be: "Woah bud, I'm sorry. Have I changed or is it just that I can spend more?" Worst case scenario, you communicate. Best case scenario, you discover that you've become an asshole.

endisneigh 5y ago

I don't know - if the OP was my friend I'd want to know so I could reassure them. More practically speaking we could meet somewhere else where they could feel more comfortable. Isn't that the whole point of friendship?

Otek 5y ago
This is friendship? Meeting with my friend on neutral place because he can’t stand that I have huge house?
- andrecarini 5y ago
  Yes