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> putting a pronoun down is for the benefit of those conversing with you, so they don't have to wonder or get it wrong. The type of people concerned with being
by xienze 5y ago
> putting a pronoun down is for the benefit of those conversing with you, so they don't have to wonder or get it wrong.
The type of people concerned with being addressed by the "correct" pronouns will list them without being asked, believe me. And for the other 99.9% of people, it's pretty obvious what to use.
- lazyasciiart 5y agoMaybe for you, but I don't know what pronoun to use to refer to someone named Xie that I have never met, and it's not exactly unusual for it to come up in email discussions.
- NikolaeVarius 5y agoI dont understand. You do the thing we have been doing a hundred years. "They"
- lazyasciiart 5y agoI was addressing the parent comment that said it's pretty obvious what to use, which I interpreted as being able to identify whether someone should be referred to as he or she. I agree that 'they' is the solution when you don't know, but I don't think that's what the parent comment was trying to say.
- DeWilde 5y agoIf people feel that it is important to them they will make sure you know it. Otherwise if unsure maybe ask? I don't feel the need to put the pronouns as I don't care about it and find it toxic that it is being peer pressured uppon me. I also support anyone who wants to put their pronouns in the signature or whatever. If it is something important to them then I'll respect their choice, even if they go with something silly like Xor/Xir.
- space_fountain 5y agoHum, do you actually agree with the idea that people care about how others perceive them? Are you saying that the only way we should get to communicate that is through crude things like the way we dress or our bone structure? I don't know, sometimes stating pronouns and the like can seem a bit much I'll admit, but I'm not sure what the good alternatives even all