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I never fill out the preferred pronoun section that have suddenly made their way into forms.
by newsclues 5y ago
I never fill out the preferred pronoun section that have suddenly made their way into forms.
- Spooky23 5y agoI have a coworker who assigned “Lord” as his personal pronoun.
- deleted 5y ago[deleted]
- Lio 5y agoI always liked the idea of using “m’lud” or “y’excellency”. It makes HR emails sound more subservient I think. HR departments are famed for their sense of humour so I’m sure they’d be fine with it.
- mikepurvis 5y agoIsn't preferred pronouns kind of orthogonal to the rest of the stuff? It has nothing to do with attempting to ensure representation and is instead about addressing a person in the manner of their choosing, akin to asking a woman if she prefers Ms, Miss, Mme, Mrs, etc. I expect it's probably way more appropriate in most contexts to directly ask a person what their preferred pronouns are than to ask what their gender identity is; the pronouns are what you actually need and this way you're finding them out with certainty rather than trying to guess based on some internal gender->pronoun mapping table.
- coolso 5y agoPronouns are merely virtue signaling acts of control. By specifying pronouns if they are obvious (99% of the time) you are signaling you are part of a non-bigoted, non-hateful club. Surely you don’t hate people right? So why don’t you have your pronouns visible, fellow citizen? It’s also a form of control in redefining the obvious. You want to just live your life? Nope, sorry, you need to consciously be aware of my preferred pronouns at all times. It’s a very narcissistic and attention seeking thing too.
- notreallyserio 5y agoIt's just an extension of using someone's name. Is that virtue signaling, too? Or is the problem really that it's new and scary?
- coolso 5y ago
- shadowgovt 5y agoThis. The crowd that replaced suits and ties with jeans and t-shirts are now nervous that someone is coming along to upend their status quo of culture and norms and they don't much like the idea.
- coolso 5y ago
- shadowgovt 5y agoThe people who fought against the changes in dress codes claimed jeans and t's had all manner of impact on the professional setting of the workplace. Is it really an imposition, when your profession includes declaring what OS you're using so you can create usable bug reports, to declare your pronouns on some form somewhere?
- pessimizer 5y agoI frequently use pronouns for people whose names I have no interest in knowing, so it's definitely an extension. I just think it's an onerous one.
- at_a_remove 5y agoI have been tempted to enter "bun/bunself" and show up with rabbit ears. That has made its way into the "real and valid" category.
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- monkeybutton 5y ago>asking a woman if she prefers Ms, Miss, Mme, Mrs This was at one point a controversial topic. Conservatives objected to the new construct of neutral meaning "Ms" and feminists objected to "Miss" and "Mrs" because they indicated marital status. The argument being that viewing a woman's name with those titles was reducing her to an object who's worth was determined by if she was available or not to men.
- celtain 5y agoThere was a controversy, but the controversy was never over whether it was appropriate to ask for your honorific on a form, just what the options should be. E.g. nobody thought it was weird to ask if you went by Dr.
- chongli 5y agoNo, preferred pronouns are like he/him, she/her, they/them. These pronouns are only used when other people are talking about you. In most contexts it’s considered rude for people to talk about you like you’re not even there. So in fact, the only time your pronouns should be used is when people are talking about you and you’re not present!