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This is so fucking desperate. This whole thing is so fucking fucked up. Somebody I love has been in depression for almost a year. I tried everything, includin
by izhak 5y ago
This is so fucking desperate.
This whole thing is so fucking fucked up.
Somebody I love has been in depression for almost a year. I tried everything, including this suggested "stay with them in the dark until they are better, oh wait that time could never come, but you do stay there with them nevertheless". Thanks for the "advice". That's what I've been doing. It's draining and it's killing me. Burning out through such experience is a matter of months, unless you are fully well, physically and mentally happy and stable yourself w/ a lot of overage to give. Surprise - most people are not.
The article doesn't mention that at all.
Doesn't answer the question where the hell can we find the resource and support to sustain ourselves while also being in the somebody else's darkness.
Doesn't even mention that as a fundamental question.
And for many of us the situation of "can't leave my beloved one, can't live with them in the darkness" will result in a endless cycle of two depressed people locked up in the cave of mutual drowning.
I'm still here and I'm not gonna go.
- vishnumohandas 5y agoWhat you're going through sounds painful. Depression is perhaps contagious. I hope you are doing the best you can to take care of your own mental health. It could otherwise result in a negative feedback loop. Also, please think about seeing a therapist. It might help to talk to someone who can understand what you are dealing with.
- fleddr 5y agoI couldn't agree more, the article is hopelessly naive and assumes that the partner simply has an unlimited amount of (mental) energy and patience to try and handle somebody with a mental illness. And worse, you're not "allowed" to actually help, you should leave them in the dark and absorb their negativity. The fact that this negativity reflects on yourself seems to be of no interest to the author.
- izhak 5y agoexactly