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Yeah, but sometimes… Life hits hard and you‘ll miss out on these days. When I turned 22 in 2008, my mom surprised me with her having sarcoidosis, a disease whi
by MrGilbert 5y ago
Yeah, but sometimes… Life hits hard and you‘ll miss out on these days.
When I turned 22 in 2008, my mom surprised me with her having sarcoidosis, a disease which will turn functional cells into non-functional ones. Quite an issue when it starts in your lungs. A year later, my father surprised me with him having cancer.
Long story short, they passed away in 2013 and 2017. I should also mention that I have four younger siblings. I raised my little sister until the beginning of 2020, when she turned 18. And then, the pandemic hit.
Now, I‘m ready for everything I missed in my mid-twenties. Party like there is no tomorrow, make stupid mistakes and f*ck around (literally and metaphorically).
Yet that means I‘ll be unable to live a „normal“ life by our societie's standards, because I already should have wife and kids by the age of 35…
- angrais 5y agoWhy did you raise your younger sister until she was 18? Did she go off to university? You can also party and fuck around in your 30s. It's different than 20s of course, but still great! Also, I'd try to refrain from comparing yourself go the "normal" life. You've clearly had a unique journey (beyond "normal" might be in TV shows), and I am certain you've learnt a lot through it. You're clearly a legend for looking after your family in the way that you did. I am sure your brother's and sisters will appreciate it in the future if they've not made it clear already.
- MrGilbert 5y agoWell, in Germany you are no longer a minor after passing 18. Before that, you need to have someone to look after you. Usually, that's your parent's job, but if they are gone, it can be grandparents, aunts & uncles, your older siblings or a complete stranger. So I applied for that role, as that was the last promise I gave to my mum - that I would look after my little sister. Well, my sister had a boyfriend at that time she turned 18, so they wanted to move together. And legally speaking, my guardianship ended on that day she turned 18. And thank you for your kind words. <3
- colecut 5y agoI'm 36, my 11 year old son's mom passed away from cancer last year, and 2 days later cancer was found in my fiancee. She passed away 3 months ago. I now share custody of my son with his stepdad... There's not much "normal" about it, but it's the best thing I/we can do for him given the circumstances. Family is what you make it. I would focus on enjoying life and doing what you feel is best with no regard for what seems normal.