This needs to be made into a plan. 1. Where to meet people. 2. How to approach people. 3. How to handle initial contact. 4. How to bond. 5. Graceful goodbye.

This needs to be made into a plan. 1. Where to meet people. 2. How to approach people. 3. How to handle initial contact. 4. How to bond. 5. Graceful goodbye. 6. Further contact warranted? None of these are easy by themselves even. 1) The older you get the harder it is to meet people. First you are in school with a bunch of random people. Then you may have to detour into the military, utterly random people. University with a bunch of people a little less random. The farther you get from your educational stage the harder it is to meet people. People get older, they already have a circle of friends and family. You can: - Join a book club - Join a sportsteam - Find a place to volunteer. - Join a religion. Some will have rituals for including new members. - Join some political / ideological activism group - Join the Foreign Legion - Find somewhere public and hang out there all the time (pub, coffee shop, lingerie store, jail, ) - Take classes in something. 2) Not much help I can give here. It can be super hard. Esp if there is already a structure in place. So everyone is talking to people in small groups and there you are all by yourself. I suck hard at this I have attended a lot of tech related conferences like DefCon. I never managed to meet anyone there. Except when I was a speaker. 3) I suck hard at this 4) Yeah right. 5) The best if you can establish a timetable ahead of time in some subtle way, or you may be in a situation where there is a natural timetable. You need flexibility. You might never want to see this person again (ever). 6) Usually not. Most people suck. You suck too, but you are ok with it sort of. I have no interest and nothing to contribute on: sports, drinking, shagging, fishing, celebrities, fashion, exotic vacations, gambling, get rich quick schemes, tupperware, MLM Making beer, wine, compost, voodoo dolls, automobiles, Now here is where people say: "Well, there is your problem". I think not really: I like: modern art, photography, philosophy, politics, (in a respectful, restrained, and eager to learn kind way) religion, literature, eclectic music, programming, hacking, There is a subsection of all people who enjoy one or more of those, that subsection is vastly smaller than: sports, drinking, celebrities, tavel.