Gonna be honest here - easiest way is to simply not think about it. It’s incredibly difficult but that is the simplest way. I have a phrase that I used with my

Gonna be honest here - easiest way is to simply not think about it. It’s incredibly difficult but that is the simplest way. I have a phrase that I used with my ex-wife and with others - which is - “don’t dig the groove.” Which is a reference of how your brain has grooves but also how memories and associations in the brain work. The more you think about them - the more connected and dug in they get. The best way to move on is to not think about it and let erosion fill in the grooves. There are various ways to get around these things but I find getting yourself out of what stimulates you to be most effective. If going to certain places reminds you of something - don’t go there. If eating certain foods or looking at certain photos or answering certain questions about your life - just find ways to avoid those things. That may or may not be easy or simple depending on the associations but it is something I found to be effective. It might even mean not reading self-help or anything - tbh. Sometimes the best way to move on is to literally completely move on and act like you’re already fully moved on and done all the processing. (Fake it til you make it essentially) I’m speaking as someone who has lived through a lot of trauma. Obsessing over it and trying to find ways to get over it never really worked. Especially because the only way for me to feel like I get over anything is that I’m now in a better position than I was before. So the path forward for me was incredibly difficult but somewhat “simple”. In the same way that being able to move a heavy object might be simply done by lifting heavy weights for many years before you’re able to move that heavy object by yourself. But there are other more effective ways but sometimes they just aren’t accessible for you and there is a satisfaction/pride in just being able to do it yourself without any assistance or gadgets.