In addition to all the other great advice and heart felt sharing here I would add: Do some research into the composition of the human mind and heart. Basically

In addition to all the other great advice and heart felt sharing here I would add: Do some research into the composition of the human mind and heart. Basically train to be a clinical psychiatrist. I know it sounds like a lot, but I don't mean to aim to be a professional, but more of a survey of the subjects would help. Mostly help inasmuch as knowing how your and most everyone elses minds, hearts, and souls work and how they can heal. There's lot of models. From Jungian to whatever they all point to the same mystery. Dive into that. The unexamined life, and all that...