> it is hard for us tech oriented people to build a great social life. Because our minds constantly revolve around tech and science. I disagree. There are thou

> it is hard for us tech oriented people to build a great social life. Because our minds constantly revolve around tech and science. I disagree. There are thousands of reasons for loneliness, and there are thousands of different types of nerds. Might nerds have a higher number of being lonely statistically speaking? Possible. But it's a gross overstatement that a mind revolving around tech and science necessarily causes loneliness. The correlation is not particularly strong, and the causation is certainly unproven. From I observe in myself and my colleagues, many "nerds" socialize just fine. They are nerds at some time, and social butterflies at others. If you feel lonely, you have to first identify "why". Is it something about yourself (reluctance to speak to people, reluctance to connect)? Is it something about the circumstance (moving to a different city, so losing old contacts)? Is it something about the current environment that is unfriendly to you? Are you in a place where nobody shares your hobby? I personally find my own loneliness more related to the fact that I'm in a different country. I was reading Orwell's essay on Henry Miller, and one sentence struck me very dearly: "Exile is probably more damaging to a novelist than to a painter or even a poet, because its effect is to take him out of contact with working life and narrow down his range to the street, the café, the church, the brothel and the studio." Although not a novelist (and not a patron of brothel), I do find myself limited to certain streets, houses, and supermarkets. I've visited more hotels than homes, more restaurants than kitchens, and I know very little about what American life entails apart from what I observe from a distance. No matter what I do, I can't seem to get into US culture. I combat this kind of loneliness by focusing on what I can get into: connect with people who share similar hobbies: violin playing, cooking, literature. It feels much more free to talk with people about what I fully understand, rather than small talks in which I can barely grasp the meaning of idioms. And the more I talk, the more I can start to connect with people on an emotional level, which feels very comforting.