I too was struck by the seeming pointlessness of the article. However there is a reason to give her the benefit of the doubt. Often women are socialized to subs

I too was struck by the seeming pointlessness of the article. However there is a reason to give her the benefit of the doubt. Often women are socialized to subsume their own wants and desires into the greater wants of their families. Because of this, the "I want" part of you, that can clearly even know what you want, becomes lost. She might sound like she destroyed her marriage for no reason, not because she doesn't have a reason, but because those feelings are still so inchoate that she was just left with a strong but vague desperation. I'd be interested to read more from her in 5 years and see if the distance gains her clarity.