It may sound strange but I almost feel I have to ask for permission to move on. Easier said than done, but I think part of it is giving yourself permissio

It may sound strange but I almost feel I have to ask for permission to move on. Easier said than done, but I think part of it is giving yourself permission? When my mom died, I had some lingering... negative feelings. I was angry about some medical choices she made, and of course I blamed myself for not helping more. Eventually I gave myself permission to... 1. Feel multiple things at once. I am allowed to have some negative feelings AND simultaneously enjoy all of the wonderful and positive memories of her. 2. Continue to feel the negative things. I did not try to stomp out the negative things. They are valid! I have valid reasons to feel some amount of anger! Over time the positive voices in my head greatly outnumbered the negative ones. I didn't have to chase down the negative ones and eliminate them.