In my observation, the natural response for most people is dial or compensation. No human being can prevent inherent coping mechanisms, so something of the earl

In my observation, the natural response for most people is dial or compensation. No human being can prevent inherent coping mechanisms, so something of the earlier mentioned responses will always be involved, but I'd advice (to try) to aim for a different path: Don't withhold anything. Observe how it makes you feel. Why do you think, does it make you feel in a certain way? Why is something important to you? Relive the good and the bad and think about it a lot. Don't try to replace experiences with others, rather accept what has happened and that it is a part of you know. I don't think anyone can run away from this and most of us suppress previous experiences - but you can't grow from that. Best of luck to you! :)