I recently read an interesting thing about memory. Which is that remembering something - that is, bringing it to mind and playing it out - refreshes the memory,

I recently read an interesting thing about memory. Which is that remembering something - that is, bringing it to mind and playing it out - refreshes the memory, makes it new again. And if you don't do that, you will forget. So now when I have a bad memory, I try focusing on the feelings it creates in my body, and not naming them, or blaming anyone. As painful as that can be in the moment, my attention moves on pretty quickly - and I've avoided perseverating at least that one time.