I might have done this unconsciously, but in my teenagers years I bond with others over videogames (couch gaming or chat about games). Made some good friends (r

I might have done this unconsciously, but in my teenagers years I bond with others over videogames (couch gaming or chat about games). Made some good friends (really good). Then I changed country and made friends of programming (the most nerd side of my passion). Made some good friends that way too. The teenagers years were harder, it took a while to bond. I had two very good friends but lost one since he took a very different path. And my actual friends were not in school with me, so my life was miserable while in school and sometimes great over the weekend. I did a lot of "self analysis" (a lot of thinking about myself). This is something I did instinctively, I didn't study anything about it, but it helped dramatically. I turned out very happy and satisfied though, so in that mess, something must have worked! But I did meet many nerdy people myself and made friends with (including a wife), so I'd be surprised if it's not possible to do the same. The biggest struggle so far is that we can't find other families with nerd parents, now that we have kids. All the families we are friends with are all into hiking. Luckily, kids give plenty to talk about.