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Sorry to hear about your parents. I agree with your point about not harming yourself. After my first parent died, I tried to pretend like it never happened. I
by bag_boy 5y ago
Sorry to hear about your parents.
I agree with your point about not harming yourself. After my first parent died, I tried to pretend like it never happened. I drank heavily to ignore the pain. Drinking affected my own physical and mental health. It was tough to break out of that cycle - it took about a year.
After my second parent died, I acknowledged the pain and tried to embrace the grief. I didn’t drink or take drugs - when a memory came to me, I just let it ride. That was a much healthier grieving experience.
- ethbr0 5y agoIf you don't mind me asking, and it isn't too painful, what was the thought that initiated drinking? I've always been curious, because while substance abuse hasn't been a feature of my life, I'm suspicious I have other outlets (that I'd like to recognize). So what were the steps between (daily life stuff) and (I'm taking that first drink)? Resignation, sadness, boredom, lethargy, habit? Anything that I could watch out for in my own life? Any insight appreciated, and glad you feel healthier now.
- bag_boy 5y agoThanks for saying that. It’s hard to put my finger on which feelings initiated the drinking. I think that, subconsciously, I wanted to end my day comfortably numb. This is how I got there: “I have been drinking all week, why stop today?” “Why stop at one beer? I can handle another” I would watch out for repeated resignations. That seems to have created my bad habit.
- ethbr0 5y ago"Repeated resignations" is a great turn of phrase. Thanks for the response and insight!