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> it is hard for us tech oriented people to build a great social life. Because our minds constantly revolve around tech and science. This is not true and it’s
by paulcole 5y ago
> it is hard for us tech oriented people to build a great social life. Because our minds constantly revolve around tech and science.
This is not true and it’s a self-defeating attitude to create an excuse for why you haven’t achieved what you want.
Being interested in technology and science don’t prevent you from developing social skills. Develop those skills the same way you developed your tech/science skills: learning, practice, and feedback.
If you don’t know where to start: Talk to people and really listen what they have to say. Ask them questions. Read books. Date more. Go to therapy.
- igetspam 5y agoAgreed. These generalizations are self defeating and wrong. Not everyone is born with social skills but they can be learned. I had a teacher who went to school with Bill Gates. He was apparently impossible to connect with. It wasn't until it became necessary for the success of Microsoft that he really started to work on it. He paid through the nose for coaches and leveraged mentors. Now he has a stage presence and can command a room. While he's a billionaire of an example, the same thing can work for anyone. I was listening to an Arrested DevOps podcast the other day and the host was talking about how approached public speaking the way he learned new tools or tech. Before every talk, he picked one item to try and improve. Sometimes it was gesturing, so his movements could be picked up by the camera. Sometimes it was something else. Identify what success means, break it down into measurable components and work on then one at a time until they're second nature. Or be alone and be okay with it.