It is never the thing fault. But it may be the thing fault given your optimization function. Imagine a kid drowning in front of you (that somewhat happens but

It is never the thing fault. But it may be the thing fault given your optimization function. Imagine a kid drowning in front of you (that somewhat happens but on the other side of the world so you can't see directly). You can be unhappy about it, but that's within you. If you don't care about the kid you have no reason to be upset. Most probably would agree that maybe doing something to yourself to make you less upset about the kid drowning is not optimal. Reality is somewhere between this and somebody living a perfect life and wanting to kill himself.