Men are often very tied to their sense of progress/making it in the world, & it's not just the tax of doing the work that makes driven people lonely. We're ali

Men are often very tied to their sense of progress/making it in the world, & it's not just the tax of doing the work that makes driven people lonely. We're alienated from others, who are on different paths & who we feel will be hard to relate to. Whatever rate the friendship grows, distance will probably grow faster, as our experiences take us in different directions. How likely is it this is going to be another person who I won't be able to share my best parts with, who won't be on my level? Is what's left going to be enough? And we're alienated from ourselves; we keep close the dreams & visions of better selves, who haven't quite made it yet. It's hard to relate to others honestly because we believe in a self that's better than we are, believe in a not yet found edition. Relating the past is easy and safe, relating today is ok, but to be able to speculatively imagine & make real our better, upcoming selves: now there's a journey that's hard to engage in. Last it's hard to guess whose even worth investing in: who has the depth of character to be a rich rewarding friend, who has the time to share & enjoy, who walks a path that will be interesting? Honestly there's a lot of aspects of maleness that spike my misandry, that I don't like; how long will it take to find out all the reasons I won't like this potential friend?