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After practicing partner dances for over 15 years, it seems to me that it is possible to have a kind of connection with another person that feels like magic — i

After practicing partner dances for over 15 years, it seems to me that it is possible to have a kind of connection with another person that feels like magic — it is so direct and immediate that it does not seem to explainable by our current generally accepted theories of physics and biology (i.e. mirror neurons and the like). It feels like the follower is reading my mind. But I don’t think it is beyond physical world, it is just sonething we don’t yet understand well enough.

bradlys 5y ago
Have danced for a long time as well. In no way do I feel like it’s telepathic. People are clearly communicating in physical form. I’d just say that as you get better with dancing - you just get more in tune with what emotions are aligned with what type of movement. I think many people are not very much in their head about it when they’re dancing either. If you’re in your head - actually analyzing what someone is doing physically then you’ll understand where the feeling of telepathy comes from. Dancing is one of those things where I think people who are in their heads a lot can manage to be not in their heads and suddenly - they’re like, “wow, it’s like we telepathically are speaking to one another. I know what they feel and think a bit! But I wasn’t totally in my head analyzing them - how could it be?!” But it’s really that you’ve turned off your speaking mind and just let your brain do the rest. If you kept the analytical mind on - you’d know what physical cues to read to understand when someone feels happy/sad/safe/uncomfortable.
- kukkeliskuu 5y ago
  I know what you mean, and it is a real phenomenon. What you are describing I call kineetetic connection, and that is what many dancers, even dance teachers think is the only connection that exists. It is practically the only kind is taught in formal dance schools. I have trained kinestetic connection a lot as well, and really I am talking about very different kind of connection. Apparently this something else is something that kinestetically gifted people sometimes might have trouble experiencing, because of their strenghts. You could think that it is as challeging for kinestetic people to dance from the heart as it is for head-people to dance kinestetically. As a head-person I have had to learn everything the hard way.
kaycebasques 5y ago
For situations where there is physical proximity I get what you're saying. Maybe we're just way better at detecting slight movements, smelling pheromones, etc. than currently understood. Especially when you have a relationship for many years with the person. But that doesn't seem to solve the situations involving large distances.
- kukkeliskuu 5y ago
  I call this connection in dancing ”emotional connection” which probably gives the impression that it does not feel ”physical” in the traditional sense. There are various forms of connection possible, for example birds can sense magnetic field and they can fly in formatioms which seem very similar to my experience.
danaris 5y ago
I work in a psychology department, and one of the student thesis projects from this past year was using portable EEG headsets to attempt to determine whether figure skaters doing the same routine synchronize their neural patterns in some way. Sadly, the equipment was not sophisticated enough to handle the situation yet (the headsets are pretty finicky, and using them while moving around like that, even though it's supposed to be part of their use case, just doesn't give good results yet), so their results were inconclusive. It's definitely an interesting direction, though.
- kukkeliskuu 5y ago
  Interesting!

bradlys 5y ago

Have danced for a long time as well. In no way do I feel like it’s telepathic. People are clearly communicating in physical form. I’d just say that as you get better with dancing - you just get more in tune with what emotions are aligned with what type of movement. I think many people are not very much in their head about it when they’re dancing either. If you’re in your head - actually analyzing what someone is doing physically then you’ll understand where the feeling of telepathy comes from. Dancing is one of those things where I think people who are in their heads a lot can manage to be not in their heads and suddenly - they’re like, “wow, it’s like we telepathically are speaking to one another. I know what they feel and think a bit! But I wasn’t totally in my head analyzing them - how could it be?!” But it’s really that you’ve turned off your speaking mind and just let your brain do the rest. If you kept the analytical mind on - you’d know what physical cues to read to understand when someone feels happy/sad/safe/uncomfortable.

kukkeliskuu 5y ago
I know what you mean, and it is a real phenomenon. What you are describing I call kineetetic connection, and that is what many dancers, even dance teachers think is the only connection that exists. It is practically the only kind is taught in formal dance schools. I have trained kinestetic connection a lot as well, and really I am talking about very different kind of connection. Apparently this something else is something that kinestetically gifted people sometimes might have trouble experiencing, because of their strenghts. You could think that it is as challeging for kinestetic people to dance from the heart as it is for head-people to dance kinestetically. As a head-person I have had to learn everything the hard way.

kaycebasques 5y ago

For situations where there is physical proximity I get what you're saying. Maybe we're just way better at detecting slight movements, smelling pheromones, etc. than currently understood. Especially when you have a relationship for many years with the person. But that doesn't seem to solve the situations involving large distances.

kukkeliskuu 5y ago
I call this connection in dancing ”emotional connection” which probably gives the impression that it does not feel ”physical” in the traditional sense. There are various forms of connection possible, for example birds can sense magnetic field and they can fly in formatioms which seem very similar to my experience.

danaris 5y ago

I work in a psychology department, and one of the student thesis projects from this past year was using portable EEG headsets to attempt to determine whether figure skaters doing the same routine synchronize their neural patterns in some way. Sadly, the equipment was not sophisticated enough to handle the situation yet (the headsets are pretty finicky, and using them while moving around like that, even though it's supposed to be part of their use case, just doesn't give good results yet), so their results were inconclusive. It's definitely an interesting direction, though.

kukkeliskuu 5y ago
Interesting!