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The gender ratio thing is weird and a surprising reason for why people my age seem to want to work in New York City. I really don’t get it - as a non-white guy

The gender ratio thing is weird and a surprising reason for why people my age seem to want to work in New York City. I really don’t get it - as a non-white guy people like me are out of luck no matter the ratio.

ISO-morphism 5y ago
I've stared at this comment for about an hour now. I'm reading this as you saying that where you currently are (the Midwest?) people your age perceive the gender ratio as poor, and think they'll have better luck with a better ratio in NYC. You feel like it doesn't matter whether you're in the Midwest or NYC, or whether the ratio is good or bad, being non-white is a larger factor than location or ratio. Am I reading that right, or am I misinterpreting?
- chrisseaton 5y ago
  The gender ratios are so messed up in New York and San Francisco that at one point there was a service that would fly women from NY to SF, and men from SF to NY, for the weekend for group dating. I’ve heard first hand people take jobs in NY instead of SF as they think they’ll have a better chance at finding a woman partner.
  - bradlys 5y ago
    Gender ratios in NYC aren’t actually bad for women. There are actually more single men in nyc between ages 18-35 than single women. This stat is widely glossed over. But this is because that’s true in 95% of metros in the USA!! There are only more women overall in nyc because they include women past 35 - which is past the prime dating years. This holds true in just about every major city in the USA. 5% more men are born overall. It’s only evened out by age 40 because men kill themselves at a much higher rate than women. (General mental health crisis going on for men that is shoved under the rug)
- tandymodel100 5y ago
  That is a correct interpretation.
- post_from_work 5y ago
  >>>being non-white is a larger factor than location or ratio Back when OKCupid's blog had a bunch of interesting data and insights about dating, the conclusion was: if you are male, and you are NOT a top-tier chiseled-jaw white/black/Latin guy....your prospects in the US are slim-to-none. And that was before women had legions of OnlyFans simps at their fingertips.

ISO-morphism 5y ago

I've stared at this comment for about an hour now. I'm reading this as you saying that where you currently are (the Midwest?) people your age perceive the gender ratio as poor, and think they'll have better luck with a better ratio in NYC. You feel like it doesn't matter whether you're in the Midwest or NYC, or whether the ratio is good or bad, being non-white is a larger factor than location or ratio. Am I reading that right, or am I misinterpreting?

chrisseaton 5y ago
The gender ratios are so messed up in New York and San Francisco that at one point there was a service that would fly women from NY to SF, and men from SF to NY, for the weekend for group dating. I’ve heard first hand people take jobs in NY instead of SF as they think they’ll have a better chance at finding a woman partner.
- bradlys 5y ago
  Gender ratios in NYC aren’t actually bad for women. There are actually more single men in nyc between ages 18-35 than single women. This stat is widely glossed over. But this is because that’s true in 95% of metros in the USA!! There are only more women overall in nyc because they include women past 35 - which is past the prime dating years. This holds true in just about every major city in the USA. 5% more men are born overall. It’s only evened out by age 40 because men kill themselves at a much higher rate than women. (General mental health crisis going on for men that is shoved under the rug)
tandymodel100 5y ago
That is a correct interpretation.
post_from_work 5y ago
>>>being non-white is a larger factor than location or ratio Back when OKCupid's blog had a bunch of interesting data and insights about dating, the conclusion was: if you are male, and you are NOT a top-tier chiseled-jaw white/black/Latin guy....your prospects in the US are slim-to-none. And that was before women had legions of OnlyFans simps at their fingertips.