Yep. You try and explain the arguments or situations, but in peoples minds they apply the model of a normal person that they have in their head to the narc beca

Yep. You try and explain the arguments or situations, but in peoples minds they apply the model of a normal person that they have in their head to the narc because they look at the narc and see a normal person, and they think well you just explain this to them or just say that to them. They don't understand that their mental models of how someone will behave and what they will feel and say and do are not applicable to the situation, and that trying to apply them will give you the wrong answer. like playing a familiar game with the controls reversed.