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I'm of the same age, two kids as well. Totally normal to feel this way, so don't beat yourself up. Why not stick with B and then move to A down the road? Why gi
by gnz11 5y ago
I'm of the same age, two kids as well. Totally normal to feel this way, so don't beat yourself up. Why not stick with B and then move to A down the road? Why give yourself the added stress right now? If you are at a major tech company, there should be room to move within the organization later on down the road as well. Also, don't worry about the careers of others, everyone moves through their careers at different rates.
On a side note, every job is going to have its soul-sucking aspects, no matter how amazing the position might look from the outside. Politics, stress, anxiety, etc are going to happen whenever people and emotions come together. Time with your kids is something you won't ever get back, maximize for this before anything else (especially since you seem to already have a good career). Separate the job from your life as much as possible, don't become your job so to speak. The time for side projects will come back. When I do get the time to work on a side project now, I find it much more enjoyable and I appreciate the slowness.
- ac2022 5y agoThank you, love it that you said maximize time for kids. It puts everything in perspective. Only reason I started to compare myself with others is because we got priced out of housing marketing when we could have bought our dream home just 12 months ago. Otherwise, while I didn't care so much about my job, I was mostly happy.
- gnz11 5y agoSame thing happened to me (east coast), was looking to upgrade to a single family home but pandemic bumped up the housing prices and demand. I spoke to a realtor while out on a walk one day who mentioned that houses were selling at $80K+ above asking price and to just sit tight for a bit. So that's what we'll do...I'm not in any rush. What can you do anyway? No sense in paying inflated prices.
- ac2022 5y agoYeah I am Texas. Before 2021, one could buy a beautiful home with a pool in a top rated school districts for $450K easily. Now same homes are going for $650K+. I personally am not in rush to buy new home but it just made me feel like I didn't keep up with inflation and should do something about it. Wife is in slightly more rush but I am very strict on our loans to income ratio.