Keep in mind that E can occupy your mind a bit more than A. Im not a management type, but if you feel good about it go for it. As for l33t code just read couple

Keep in mind that E can occupy your mind a bit more than A. Im not a management type, but if you feel good about it go for it. As for l33t code just read couple of books, clean code, design patterns and pragmatic programmer. If you like to code choose a nice framework and get great with it. I understand its hard with kids, but think about it in diff perspective. If sacrificing one hour per day to learn new, well paid tech can get you to make same money or better money in just 4 days instead of 5 in one year, then maybe its worth it? Thats ethernal trade off. Putting more effort when its hard to enjoy early retirement. And keep in mind theres not that many joba where you can work from home and take care of your kids. Devs and it people (not the printer guys) are extremely privilleged we must admit it.