You appear to already know it's awful? When I first read it I thought the question was "is this parenting or scum'.. and I had already decided on the answer be

You appear to already know it's awful? When I first read it I thought the question was "is this parenting or scum'.. and I had already decided on the answer before realizing I misread. I'm certain your intentions are good but sheesh growing up in this household sounds like it's going to be torture. My 2 kids moved at wildly different speeds on different things. Good luck, as everyone knows it's a tough gig...