I think focusing on making your kid smile and laugh is a much more productive use of your effort. You and the kid will be much happier. (Be honest, is there a

I think focusing on making your kid smile and laugh is a much more productive use of your effort. You and the kid will be much happier. (Be honest, is there anything that makes you happier than hearing her laugh?) If you make sure the kid is safe and happy and has some good opportunities and don't push, the rest will take care of itself.