In this case however, the relative silence is a good indicator. Usually, even if one leaves a place and can't share their grief they will at least try to point

In this case however, the relative silence is a good indicator. Usually, even if one leaves a place and can't share their grief they will at least try to point out a positive. That said, phrasing such as "You'll become a world class VB6 Developer" is a lovely way to let people know what they are in for in a way that is not disparaging, per-se.