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It's gotten me nowhere as well but it has allowed me to be me, which is quite alright. I wasn't trying to get anywhere necessarily. But I was always comfortable
by SyzygistSix 5y ago
It's gotten me nowhere as well but it has allowed me to be me, which is quite alright. I wasn't trying to get anywhere necessarily. But I was always comfortable with that.
- giantg2 5y agoIt's a painful existence to be oneself and see the negative consequences/treatment by society because of it.
- em-bee 5y agoi don't want to pry, but if you don't mind, what kind of negative consequences are you experiencing? i too experience negative consequences, but these are owed to finding it difficult to make friends. however, i do not believe that this difficulty comes from doing what is suggested in the article but rather the reverse, the difficulty to make friends is something i grew up with, any behavioral quirks developed later as a consequence of not having friends. so in other words, the negative things you experience maybe don't come from being yourself but because you may be missing something else, something that may have had a hand in shaping who you are now.
- quesera 5y agoIt's also a painful existence to be someone else, and live an unfulfilled life. And it's a rewarding experience to be oneself and eventually find the set/setting/companion/environment that correlates to you in a fulfilling way. Sometimes that's very difficult or impossible. It is never the easiest choice, but worthwhile things rarely are.
- giantg2 5y agoI'm going with impossible.
- quesera 5y agoI won't deny the importance of luck. There are things one can do to increase their apportionment of luck in life, but outcomes are not guaranteed. I don't mean to be glib. Equanimity is required for lasting contentment. Equanimity comes more naturally with age.
- giantg2 5y agoYet equanimity alone will not bring contentment either.
- SyzygistSix 5y agoYes, it can be. I am lucky and very fortunate in that I have found places to live where I can be myself and am around people who value that even though they may not understand me or the way I live.