My oldest is a daughter of two parents with ASD diagnosid and certain things have to go in her way, she needs to know in advance what happens, and she has diffi

My oldest is a daughter of two parents with ASD diagnosid and certain things have to go in her way, she needs to know in advance what happens, and she has difficulty adapting to a situation. In my country, you can only get an autism diagnosis at age 4, and she's well into 3 years old. These temper tantrums or meltdowns are common for age 3 though. PS: We were both misdiagnosed as having anxiety disorders (GAD and avoidant, GAD and agoraphobia respectively). I also got Ritalin prescribed against fatigue (because I could not officially get ADHD diagnosis as adult according to my psychiatrist this was back during DSM-IV). It would not surprise me if other people with social anxiety diagnosis (also) have ASD, but as usual if you can function in society with your current diagnosis (or lack of it), who cares, it isn't worth the hassle (time, money, effort).