> I merely observe that friendships did not flow naturally from going to meetups, the way you seem to be suggesting happens readily. You're right, you definite

> I merely observe that friendships did not flow naturally from going to meetups, the way you seem to be suggesting happens readily. You're right, you definitely need to put a lot of effort in, inviting people, navigating problems, finding good people, etc. And yeah, some social occasions are better than others. The main point I'm making really is that you need to get out there and do stuff. If you don't even try then you have a 100% chance of failure. Which is why I find some of the comments below rather odd. The potential downside to asking your neighbour out for a pint is almost zero, the upside is unlimited. I mean, they could be an axe murderer or rapist, but actually we don't live in a movie and they're probably not, lol.