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Not sure why you are getting down voted… your post was quite vulnerable. There were a couple interesting tid bits in what you wrote, but I will refrain from ar

Not sure why you are getting down voted… your post was quite vulnerable. There were a couple interesting tid bits in what you wrote, but I will refrain from arm chair diagnosis. I am glad you have some supportive friends, we all need that. You might also consider seeking out professional support. Finding a good therapist is tough, but when you do, it can be life changing.

filoleg 5y ago
I agree with you overall, it was definitely a very "raw" and vulnerable post. I wasn't one of the downvoters, but I think those "couple interesting tidbits" might be the reason for downvotes. People aren't comfortable reading someone's delusions of grandeur, even if they might be true. It is just off-putting to hear someone very confidently proclaim "under the hood I am a genius and a mess" and "my ideas, creativity, research and insights result in massive wins. But other people always get the credit". The post can easily be interpreted as a "oh woe poor me, I am a super productive genius who turns everything he touches into gold, but people like me never win the corporate game because the system is rigged" type of a humblebrag that is not being entirely truthful. Again, even if it is actually the truth, it just leaves a sour taste. Probably because all of it seems like just shifting the blame onto everyone else and going on a rant that can be boiled down to "I am a misunderstood genius, but everyone else gets the credit every single time for every massive win I get for my company, because great winners like me just never get to win in corporate, the system is rigged". This is quite out there and is something a lot of people with some heavy overestimation of their abilities say. Because to them it seems like they are "losing the corporate game" due to them somehow being discriminated against for their ingenuity and smarts, and not due to their actual lack of ability coupled with massive overconfidence in their ability. After all, as the famous quote says, if everywhere you go you see assholes, you might be the one who is the asshole.
- aspergsadd 5y ago
  I taught myself to code and built several applications with millions of users. I have switched careers multiple times and risen to upper 1% in each area rapidly. Last year: My total income was about $2 million. The numbers say my intelligence is unlike anything normally found, but it comes with some disability. I work 7 days a week. My mind never rests. You wouldn't enjoy being me :) My dad once told me: His tested IQ was 145+. Everyone in my family has similar stories. Photographic memories, Each of my family members has independently found a way to make millions of dollars. Its atypical intelligence profile. People generally tend not to like me, and it happens quickly. My facial reactions, emotional game and how I open conversations: People don't like it.
  - filoleg 5y ago
    That's why I didn't downvote or dismiss it. It is entirely possible that those things are saying are true, and I believe you. I was talking about the overall manner of how you said it being something that puts people off, not necessarily the content. Like, even if the content is legitimate, the tone just makes it all sour. I am not trying to be mean or attack you, but your last reply was kind of a perfect example of what I am talking about. If you figure out how to work around the "people don't like me and how i converse with them" issue (which imo is just a lack of social skills, regardless of whether it is due to neurodivergence or not), you are gonna become legitimately unstoppable if you combine it with the rest of your skills/intelligence.
- MobileVet 5y ago
  I hear you, definitely good points as well. It doesn’t come off well which I think either gives credence to a) douche canoe b) neurodiverse I have some experience with this, picked up on some clues and ran with option B. It’s kind of odd, but personality and intellect feel a bit like a zero sum equation. The more truly brilliant a person, the more likely they have trouble ‘reading the room’. Obviously there are exceptions and it isn’t so simple, but I have seen it play out more often than not.

filoleg 5y ago

I agree with you overall, it was definitely a very "raw" and vulnerable post. I wasn't one of the downvoters, but I think those "couple interesting tidbits" might be the reason for downvotes. People aren't comfortable reading someone's delusions of grandeur, even if they might be true. It is just off-putting to hear someone very confidently proclaim "under the hood I am a genius and a mess" and "my ideas, creativity, research and insights result in massive wins. But other people always get the credit". The post can easily be interpreted as a "oh woe poor me, I am a super productive genius who turns everything he touches into gold, but people like me never win the corporate game because the system is rigged" type of a humblebrag that is not being entirely truthful. Again, even if it is actually the truth, it just leaves a sour taste. Probably because all of it seems like just shifting the blame onto everyone else and going on a rant that can be boiled down to "I am a misunderstood genius, but everyone else gets the credit every single time for every massive win I get for my company, because great winners like me just never get to win in corporate, the system is rigged". This is quite out there and is something a lot of people with some heavy overestimation of their abilities say. Because to them it seems like they are "losing the corporate game" due to them somehow being discriminated against for their ingenuity and smarts, and not due to their actual lack of ability coupled with massive overconfidence in their ability. After all, as the famous quote says, if everywhere you go you see assholes, you might be the one who is the asshole.

aspergsadd 5y ago
I taught myself to code and built several applications with millions of users. I have switched careers multiple times and risen to upper 1% in each area rapidly. Last year: My total income was about $2 million. The numbers say my intelligence is unlike anything normally found, but it comes with some disability. I work 7 days a week. My mind never rests. You wouldn't enjoy being me :) My dad once told me: His tested IQ was 145+. Everyone in my family has similar stories. Photographic memories, Each of my family members has independently found a way to make millions of dollars. Its atypical intelligence profile. People generally tend not to like me, and it happens quickly. My facial reactions, emotional game and how I open conversations: People don't like it.
- filoleg 5y ago
  That's why I didn't downvote or dismiss it. It is entirely possible that those things are saying are true, and I believe you. I was talking about the overall manner of how you said it being something that puts people off, not necessarily the content. Like, even if the content is legitimate, the tone just makes it all sour. I am not trying to be mean or attack you, but your last reply was kind of a perfect example of what I am talking about. If you figure out how to work around the "people don't like me and how i converse with them" issue (which imo is just a lack of social skills, regardless of whether it is due to neurodivergence or not), you are gonna become legitimately unstoppable if you combine it with the rest of your skills/intelligence.
MobileVet 5y ago
I hear you, definitely good points as well. It doesn’t come off well which I think either gives credence to a) douche canoe b) neurodiverse I have some experience with this, picked up on some clues and ran with option B. It’s kind of odd, but personality and intellect feel a bit like a zero sum equation. The more truly brilliant a person, the more likely they have trouble ‘reading the room’. Obviously there are exceptions and it isn’t so simple, but I have seen it play out more often than not.