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> Online dating sites/apps seem like they'd be a nightmare. So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out exce

> Online dating sites/apps seem like they'd be a nightmare. So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps. This is definitely a downside. But the upside is that a match on a dating app is an explicit acknowledgement of mutual interest, so it's clear that you're meeting up to go on a date and not just hanging out.

drevil-v2 5y ago
> So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps Says who?
- diebeforei485 5y ago
  If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like.
  - drevil-v2 5y ago
    > If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like Says who? Have you stepped out during a weekend in a US metro city? To popular nightspots? No app needed to meet and socialise with attractive people - strangers or an extended social circle. In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel
    - throwaway7384g 5y ago
      > In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel If by “some” you mean females in their mid-20s, then yeah probably.
jokethrowaway 5y ago
Don't worry, not caring about social norms is attractive Just make a move in real life The problem with dating app is exactly what you mentioned: if you both know you're there to date or fool around there's no uncertainty, no tension. You're missing out on the feeling on trying to pickup a beautiful girl and succeeding. Besides, girls, unlike boys, compete mainly on looks. It's natural dating app will break the balance in favor women, and that's exactly what happens. Men have a tenth of the matches and are selected by women according to beauty standards instead of being evaluated by their behaviour, providing a terrible filter for dating. If in person you had a chance with some jokes and some confidence, you'll never pass the selection with that nose.

drevil-v2 5y ago

> So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps Says who?

diebeforei485 5y ago
If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like.
- drevil-v2 5y ago
  > If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like Says who? Have you stepped out during a weekend in a US metro city? To popular nightspots? No app needed to meet and socialise with attractive people - strangers or an extended social circle. In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel
  - throwaway7384g 5y ago
    > In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel If by “some” you mean females in their mid-20s, then yeah probably.

jokethrowaway 5y ago

Don't worry, not caring about social norms is attractive Just make a move in real life The problem with dating app is exactly what you mentioned: if you both know you're there to date or fool around there's no uncertainty, no tension. You're missing out on the feeling on trying to pickup a beautiful girl and succeeding. Besides, girls, unlike boys, compete mainly on looks. It's natural dating app will break the balance in favor women, and that's exactly what happens. Men have a tenth of the matches and are selected by women according to beauty standards instead of being evaluated by their behaviour, providing a terrible filter for dating. If in person you had a chance with some jokes and some confidence, you'll never pass the selection with that nose.