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I met my wife when she tapped me on the shoulder in a public place and introduced herself. I just smiled and nodded and ended up with a date - I think I might

by jcadam 5y ago

I met my wife when she tapped me on the shoulder in a public place and introduced herself. I just smiled and nodded and ended up with a date - I think I might have gotten my name out at some point -- not sure. She calls me by the correct name now, 20+ years later in any case. Online dating sites/apps seem like they'd be a nightmare.

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kordlessagain 5y ago
I’m pretty sure software ruins things that should occur naturally or by chance. Allowing people to over analyze anything while making money at the same time, through hope, is an evil business model. For every happy story used for supporting said model, there are literally billions that did it the old fashioned way.
diebeforei485 5y ago
> Online dating sites/apps seem like they'd be a nightmare. So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps. This is definitely a downside. But the upside is that a match on a dating app is an explicit acknowledgement of mutual interest, so it's clear that you're meeting up to go on a date and not just hanging out.
- drevil-v2 5y ago
  > So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps Says who?
  - diebeforei485 5y ago
    If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like.
    - drevil-v2 5y ago
      > If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like Says who? Have you stepped out during a weekend in a US metro city? To popular nightspots? No app needed to meet and socialise with attractive people - strangers or an extended social circle. In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel
      - throwaway7384g 5y ago
        > In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel If by “some” you mean females in their mid-20s, then yeah probably.
- jokethrowaway 5y ago
  Don't worry, not caring about social norms is attractive Just make a move in real life The problem with dating app is exactly what you mentioned: if you both know you're there to date or fool around there's no uncertainty, no tension. You're missing out on the feeling on trying to pickup a beautiful girl and succeeding. Besides, girls, unlike boys, compete mainly on looks. It's natural dating app will break the balance in favor women, and that's exactly what happens. Men have a tenth of the matches and are selected by women according to beauty standards instead of being evaluated by their behaviour, providing a terrible filter for dating. If in person you had a chance with some jokes and some confidence, you'll never pass the selection with that nose.

by jcadam 5y ago

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kordlessagain 5y ago

I’m pretty sure software ruins things that should occur naturally or by chance. Allowing people to over analyze anything while making money at the same time, through hope, is an evil business model. For every happy story used for supporting said model, there are literally billions that did it the old fashioned way.

diebeforei485 5y ago

> Online dating sites/apps seem like they'd be a nightmare. So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps. This is definitely a downside. But the upside is that a match on a dating app is an explicit acknowledgement of mutual interest, so it's clear that you're meeting up to go on a date and not just hanging out.

drevil-v2 5y ago
> So right now it's pretty much considered impolite / not socially acceptable to ask someone out except on dating apps Says who?
- diebeforei485 5y ago
  If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like.
  - drevil-v2 5y ago
    > If you're in your mid-20s in most US metro areas (except in the South, perhaps) - this is what it's like Says who? Have you stepped out during a weekend in a US metro city? To popular nightspots? No app needed to meet and socialise with attractive people - strangers or an extended social circle. In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel
    - throwaway7384g 5y ago
      > In fact some might even say it is like shooting fish in a barrel If by “some” you mean females in their mid-20s, then yeah probably.
jokethrowaway 5y ago
Don't worry, not caring about social norms is attractive Just make a move in real life The problem with dating app is exactly what you mentioned: if you both know you're there to date or fool around there's no uncertainty, no tension. You're missing out on the feeling on trying to pickup a beautiful girl and succeeding. Besides, girls, unlike boys, compete mainly on looks. It's natural dating app will break the balance in favor women, and that's exactly what happens. Men have a tenth of the matches and are selected by women according to beauty standards instead of being evaluated by their behaviour, providing a terrible filter for dating. If in person you had a chance with some jokes and some confidence, you'll never pass the selection with that nose.