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I'll let you in on a secret ... women's experiences on Tinder aren't that great, either.

• t-writescode 5y ago
  This. Men see a ghost town of responses and think no one of value is here. Women see a town full of roaches and think no one of value is here. Same result: no one of value found (some exceptions apply)
• kodah 5y ago
  What I said doesn't invalidate women's experiences. I was highlighting that men have to pay for said shitty experience, and the system is designed that way intentionally. The heavy TOS is because men and women act out because of that shitty system. It's a cycle.
  • arbitrage 5y ago
    • kodah 5y ago
      I didn't take it as fighting, so I'm not sure what the hostility is about. I was making clear that by highlighting men's experiences I am in no way invalidating women's experiences. That and putting some emphasis on the fact that shitty systems result in shitty TOS. > Maybe it's not all Tinder's fault you're not having much luck. This is an unnecessary and unfortunate remark.
• kingcharles 5y ago
  Years ago, when I ran PUA site, I set up a fake female profile on Match to see what the female experience was like. It was truly horrifying. In three days I got ~1000 messages from men, 99% of which were barely intelligible and usually one line, like "dam gurl u nicce" etc.
  • globular-toast 5y ago
    I did the same thing a long time ago. I was actually going to prank a friend who we knew used the site, but I learnt an important lesson. I started to feel really sorry for men. All these lonely guys who can't help their desire for women. I did use a picture of a girl who would never in a million years need to use online dating, though. I wonder if you did too.
    • kingcharles 5y ago
      Absolutely. Some poor blonde Dutch girl whose photo I unethically borrowed for the two week experiment. She would be about a "9" on my attractive scale.