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No offense, but bullshit. I've personally never once in my life used a single dating app and have met plenty of dates and love interests the old fashioned way,

No offense, but bullshit. I've personally never once in my life used a single dating app and have met plenty of dates and love interests the old fashioned way, by interacting with them in the real world after random encounters (bars, events etc) or through circles of friends. Most of the people I know met their own love interests in the same way. I don't live in some backward country with little app use either. What a sad existence it would be to have something as fundamental as one's romantic life depend on a shitty, arbitrary and parasitic data collecting app that feels it has the right to treat its users like cash cattle with no recourse for any unfair ToS decision it makes. Grotesque.

Zachsa999 5y ago
I have heard that as well, may it be some underhanded programming?
caminante 5y ago
Parent didn't say it's not possible, and your situation is anecdotal. If over 50% of people (and growing) say their relationship started on OLD, it's easy to say you're limiting your options by not participating [0] [0]https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-about-americans-and-online-dating/ https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-ab...
- Invictus0 5y ago
  > If over 50% of people (and growing) say their relationship started on OLD, it's easy to say you're limiting your options by not participating A does not in any way imply B. I strongly doubt that a non-negligible number of OLD users restrict themselves to using only OLD and automatically reject in-person advances. OP's "options" are still the same as before: all the singles in his physical meatspace.
  - caminante 5y ago
    > A does not in any way imply B. Huh? What are [A] and [B] in this situation? > I strongly doubt that a non-negligible number of OLD users restrict themselves to using only OLD and automatically reject in-person advances. OP's "options" are still the same as before: all the singles in his physical meatspace. You're assuming that a non-trivial number of people who use OLD aren't exclusive to OLD. Who's taking issue with that? OTOH, saying that one's set of available dates is unchanged by foregoing OLD is deeply flawed. You even mention "physical meatspace" which OLD directly overcomes.
- danbruc 5y ago
  If over 50% of people (and growing) say their relationship started on OLD [...] I just skimmed the article, but it seems to say that even among the youngest age group only 48% have used dating apps and only 17% were in resulting relationship.
  - caminante 5y ago
    Correct.
Dracophoenix 5y ago
While I'm not a big fan of Tinder, monetizing romantic/sexual interest is nothing new. In fact, it's historically been the norm rather than the exception. The "Monetization & Defenestration" approach may not have been done through a shitty app, but a shitty date can you get kicked out of a bar, a concert, a restaurant, a nightclub, etc. for no reason and with no recourse for your money back even if you've done nothing wrong. I don't say this to justify these acts, but to acknowledge that they exist. While I hope OP fights the charges, $20 is a small sum to lose in comparison to a $200 concert ticket.
- Invictus0 5y ago
  Who is spending $200 on a concert ticket? Let alone two of them for a first date?
  - Dracophoenix 5y ago
    You'd be surprised with what's perceived as unaffordable for many "poor" college students and early-career professionals, many of whom are helped by student loan money and the Bank of Mom & Dad. In my experience, bad financial decisions in the pursuit of lust isn't one of them.

Zachsa999 5y ago

I have heard that as well, may it be some underhanded programming?

caminante 5y ago

Parent didn't say it's not possible, and your situation is anecdotal. If over 50% of people (and growing) say their relationship started on OLD, it's easy to say you're limiting your options by not participating [0] [0]https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-about-americans-and-online-dating/ https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/02/06/10-facts-ab...

Invictus0 5y ago
> If over 50% of people (and growing) say their relationship started on OLD, it's easy to say you're limiting your options by not participating A does not in any way imply B. I strongly doubt that a non-negligible number of OLD users restrict themselves to using only OLD and automatically reject in-person advances. OP's "options" are still the same as before: all the singles in his physical meatspace.
- caminante 5y ago
  > A does not in any way imply B. Huh? What are [A] and [B] in this situation? > I strongly doubt that a non-negligible number of OLD users restrict themselves to using only OLD and automatically reject in-person advances. OP's "options" are still the same as before: all the singles in his physical meatspace. You're assuming that a non-trivial number of people who use OLD aren't exclusive to OLD. Who's taking issue with that? OTOH, saying that one's set of available dates is unchanged by foregoing OLD is deeply flawed. You even mention "physical meatspace" which OLD directly overcomes.
danbruc 5y ago
If over 50% of people (and growing) say their relationship started on OLD [...] I just skimmed the article, but it seems to say that even among the youngest age group only 48% have used dating apps and only 17% were in resulting relationship.
- caminante 5y ago
  Correct.

Dracophoenix 5y ago

While I'm not a big fan of Tinder, monetizing romantic/sexual interest is nothing new. In fact, it's historically been the norm rather than the exception. The "Monetization & Defenestration" approach may not have been done through a shitty app, but a shitty date can you get kicked out of a bar, a concert, a restaurant, a nightclub, etc. for no reason and with no recourse for your money back even if you've done nothing wrong. I don't say this to justify these acts, but to acknowledge that they exist. While I hope OP fights the charges, $20 is a small sum to lose in comparison to a $200 concert ticket.

Invictus0 5y ago
Who is spending $200 on a concert ticket? Let alone two of them for a first date?
- Dracophoenix 5y ago
  You'd be surprised with what's perceived as unaffordable for many "poor" college students and early-career professionals, many of whom are helped by student loan money and the Bank of Mom & Dad. In my experience, bad financial decisions in the pursuit of lust isn't one of them.