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I think the issue is not that being attractive is bad, it's just that often that's the _only_ message that is consistently heard by young girls. Girls might he
by 5hoom 15y ago
I think the issue is not that being attractive is bad, it's just that often that's the _only_ message that is consistently heard by young girls.
Girls might hear positive messages about being smart, creative, independent, etc. from all sorts of well intentioned sources, but there isn't the same sort of powerful, all pervasive weight attached to them as the message that being attractive is important.
Appearance is the 'common standard' of value for a female in many societies. I think that is the real problem.
- erikb 15y agoThe question is, does that come from society or would it be the same without society? I think there are also a lot of natural factors involved that drive this way of thinking. My thesis is, that to a bigger part society mimics the natural desire for beauty and attractiveness of women, not the other way around. What society creates by mimicing is absurd. No question about that. But that doesn't mean, most men would value a smart woman over a beautiful woman if there would be no society.