The problems with chatting with the opposite gender are a) finding a suitably gendered language (I understand that Chinese won't work), and b) lining up the nou

The problems with chatting with the opposite gender are a) finding a suitably gendered language (I understand that Chinese won't work), and b) lining up the nouns you need. Chatting with members of the opposite sex does not strike me as especially difficult. There are co-workers, there are neighbors, acquaintances from various activities, a spouse. If you mean chats leading quickly to sexual relations, well, that's another matter.