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This book holds a surprising wealth of knowledge in how to encourage replacement behaviors[0]. Can view it in "SumatraPDF" (reads a very wide variety of formats
by runnerup 5y ago
This book holds a surprising wealth of knowledge in how to encourage replacement behaviors[0]. Can view it in "SumatraPDF" (reads a very wide variety of formats, not just PDF). Even just the first few chapters are amazing. Generally seems to work to:
- accept that their current behavior is probably an effective way to get what they want
- identify what they want
- get them to do something else instead which is either more productive or at least more acceptable to you
- immediately reward them by giving them lots of what they want
Repeat the last two a lot and eventually the new behavior replaces the old one. The trick is that, once learned, the old behavior is never "unlearned"...it just slowly fades away and is used less and less. But even after a very long time if the new behavior stops working, eventually they'll try the old one again. Generally you'll have infinitely more success rewarding FOR behavior, rather than giving feedback AGAINST behavior.
0: http://libgen.rs/search.php?req=perfect+Sophia+yin http://libgen.rs/search.php?req=perfect+Sophia+yin